Theres one in every bunch

Lets talk etiquette. As far as I know there is no official etiquette really for a vow renewal or wedding. There are things that are traditions (dad walking you down) and things that would be way out there (like a star wars themed wedding might be weird but hey if both are into it, ok!) but there is nothing that says you cant do something or the whole thing is void and doesnt mean diddle. 

Today I encountered my first " youre doing what?" type comment. I have to say it did offend me (more so i have a feeling than my vow renewal is offending them). 
Lance and I are doing this because God is leading us to, we are doing it because of how far we have come and how we want to celebrate that by starting over. We are paying for this (with a tiny bit of help by Mom for outfits) and we are planning this. Im NOT expecting anything from anyone! Well except to show up, please do that part. I am doing everything this time I didnt do last time and then some. Why not? If renewing our vows is to celebrated then shouldnt I celebrate in a big, elaborate way? Shouldnt it be a party? 

Im having a pastor do it.
Im having my dad walk me down. 
Im having a wedding dress and Im going to feel beautiful/sexy in it. 
Im having a bridesmaid. Im having someone who MEANS something to me stand up this time. 
Im having a flower girl who will actually show up this time. 
Im having all the "firsts" i didnt have last time and REGRET not having. 
Im having a photographer.
Im having a wedding cake.
Im doing it whether its Lance and I or all 165 people show up. 

What you SHOULD say to someone renewing their vows (big celebration or not):
" Congrats!"
" Would you like any help with anything?"
" Thats such a sweet thing to do "
" What a great idea"

What you should NOT say:
" Why would you want to do that"
" Thats rude to do XYZ for a vow renewal"
" I dont think its a good idea " (in regards to the whole thing)

Mostly, I want everyone to celebrate with us. I want people to walk away after and say " That was a beautiful way to refresh your marriage ". 

Big, Small, Wedding Do Over, Over the top, Against some secret etiquette code, Just celebrate with us!